I have got a lot of respect for my parents, and I think that my Mum's learnt, that to me, whether he's Muslim or not it doesn't matter, he's still the same as any other Indian person or black person or white person, and he's still the man I love and want to marry.
But my long term plans don't include getting married!
I don't want kids either.
Well I don't mind getting married, but I don't want kids.
It's quite funny actually, 'cos on my Mum's side, her cousins, she wants to have loads of children, she loves children, then there's me!
Me and my family, we all say, " we're not having kids, you can have all of them, we don't want any more!"
And I said to my Mum you're not getting kids off me, and she goes it's alright. She was like, OK cool, I've already got my grand-children, 'cos everyone just treats my cousins and the extended family as their grandchildren.
So I want to go to college and concentrate on my career
50 years ago that would have been a big thing for a woman to have a career… in those days it wasn't really allowed to have a job once you turned into a wife, you had to stay at home and the husband went out - you just stayed at home and cooked, cleaned and looked after the children.
I think the majority of Hindu women do want children, and they probably felt the same 50 years ago.
Some of them maybe thought no I don't want children, I want to do this job - and so they had to fight cultural and family pressures which are very strong, so they probably ended up getting married and having children just to please their families, but it's not as bad as that now.
I don't mind looking after children when they are little, but it's the whole parenting thing of having to look after them - I just think about it and it's so much to do, I dunno it just puts me off!
I've always said that about kids, I don't mind looking after other people's but for some reason I don't want my own. They say I might change my mind when I get older, and I'm like, no I'm not, yes you are, no I'm not - and to this day I've not changed my mind once, and I'm 16 now.
Arranged marriages can go very wrong too, and the parents would get the blame. Sometimes the children get married to please their parents, or if they are feeling the pressure of not fulfilling traditional values.
There was this guy who didn't want to get married even though his younger cousin was getting married before him - his parents are from "the old school of thought" and want the eldest to marry first. The family couldn't take the pressure, so they got him married off.
He was married to the woman for about a year, probably trying to get divorced now - they sent her back to India and he doesn't want to live with her 'cos he didn't like her - they did it in such a rush!
He thought she was Miss Perfect and like, no she's not.
It's just because of what everyone else was gonna say, he had to do it straightaway and it was just a waste really - there was no point.
Possibly one of the reasons I don't want children is because I'm still a child myself!
We went to a restaurant – I sat there messing around 'cos I get bored and start putting salt in to things and make things and I'm 16 I know and I still do it, still like doing it, and my Mum goes to me, you’re a right hooligan, you’re not related to me are you?
And I was like, course I’m not, but I’m still a child and I think that’s why I get on a lot with little kids, I still like watching cartoons, I love messing around – I’m still really a kid at heart and probably will be for a long time.
I love watching cartoons! I always used to love watching Arthur when I cam home from school but he don’t come on anymore – I love all cartoons!
They are a good cure for the blues!
